I know some people who have a magnet on their fridge that says “Friends are the family you choose”.


I don't know about that, but with kin you are required to make conscience decision how you will be to them. Friendships seem to be more transient. If someone drifts away, we can let that happen and not feel so much responsibility.


However, how you respond to the varying exchanges from family seems to summarize your integrity as a person.